That awful sense of entitlement

Yesterday, I was lucky to be invited for a web session by the global communications team at work where I chanced upon the phrase "Strawberry Generation". Apparently, millennials are compared with that delicious fruit because for all their sweetness and exoticness, they bruise easily. Try saying a handful of words that you know won't go down well with a millennial, and you'll be tagged on a Facebook post about it before you can say "Yikes!".

The world of marketing is obsessed with the millennials since more often than not, they know what they want. And the speed at which they move from one area of interest to another keeps the competition interesting and the arena wide open for newcomers to make a mark. Off late though, one gets the feeling that they all come along with a strong sense of entitlement and a need for instant gratification. As if the world owes them everything, never mind their contribution to it. I think in that regard, The Secret has done more harm than good. If you work hard for a month, you instantly want a promotion. If you workout for a couple of days, you instantly want to look like a Victoria's Secret model. If you've started a business, you instantly want to become a multi millionaire. Reality check: things don't exactly work that way.

A possible explanation could be the fact that middle class has now graduated to the "upper middle class" and kids have grown up getting everything they laid their pudgy hands on. That, and television. You look at Friends, and you just assume that you'll get paid handsomely for "chillin' " in a coffee shop while you tend to work every once in a while. The movie version of life is so awesome. I remember watching movies when I was younger, and wondering how people jump out of bed, into clothes and rush out to do awesome things, while I spend at least half an hour in the loo and the bath trying to get my bearings after 15 whole minutes of sipping tea in a leisurely manner. Else my day goes downhill right from the beginning!

Recently a Yelp employee wrote a stinker to her CEO in the form of an "Open Letter" because she wasn't happy with her pay. Gone are the days when "struggle" was romanticized. Now, we want to follow our whims, umm, dreams, get paid at par with investment bankers, get nice long holidays to spend that money on fancy trips abroad, update all of this on Facebook, Instagram and SnapChat and tell the world how awesome our lives are. Never mind  the fact that my dream is something I am awful at. Or that the amount of value I add to my organization does not justify the amount in my paycheck.

Not all millennials are stuck up and demanding. But that's the trend. I am a borderline Millennial (mid 80s), and I know how I react when I don't get what I want. That's right - react, not respond. All those months of meditation go straight out of the window when that happens and it takes a while before I can respond to the situation like a mature, slightly evolved human being. Expectation is the root of all misery, and we keep forgetting that much to our own chagrin. In my calmer moments, I remember that tale about a tennis star who got cancer and instead of crying about it said that he never questioned the good things coming his way ever, so why should he question the inconvenient things that life had in store for him?

The world was here way before you were a peanut sized entity in your mum's womb. The world will be here when you've turned to ashes. It owes you nothing. If you really want happiness, quit expecting it from random strangers or objects. Find it within yourself. That's the only hope anyone's really got.

No book reviews. Nope.

Although my "good year" run continues in terms of reading books, I've decided that I won't be starting a book review blog after all. Reason? I hate reviewing books. This is my life, not an English assignment. I may write about my takeaway from a book if it really moves me, but I don't want to critique the books I read. And I don't want to tell people what to read and what not to read. I read for my pleasure, and that's going to be the only reason that I will continue reading.

Phew! Ever since I told myself that I'll be reviewing books, I felt under so much stress. It's like a weight has been lifted! I'm glad though that the promises I make myself have some value at least :D.

A Big Year: A Reading Odyssey

Yesterday evening I watched the last 45 minutes of a movie called "The Big Year". It was about how a number of men, who are obsessed with birding, try to make that year their "Big Year" by spotting and capturing on camera the largest no. of birds. I think I'm going to have a big year in terms of books this year (and maybe blogposts, given that I've crossed my previous year's poor outcome by 3 posts across 2 blogs already :D).

I had practically lost my reading bug over the last few years. I read books - but they were few and far in between. I had degenerated from being a voracious reader till college to someone who got through 3-4 books a year because vegetating in front of some screen was more exciting. How misguided was I!

Thankfully, a November miracle happened last year, that led to my finishing 6 books in the last two months of the year! This year, I've continued with my great run, and finished 4 books in January itself! I think the Facebook Secret Santa post helped to an extent, because I received brand new authors from absolute strangers that opened up so many new possibilities for me! New words. New insights. It's all so dreamy!

I'm planning to start yet another blog this year, which will include book reviews. I suck at book reviews for some reason (I'm so much better at reviewing movies and TV series), so this will be a personal challenge of sorts.

Excited to say the least :)

Mondays

How did Monday transform into the most hated day of the week? Shouldn't it be the most exciting day technically? After all, the world returns recharged after the weekend, to take on brand new challenges and to the smell of new possibilities and all that?

I was talking to a coworker the other day, and she said that it's as if we only live for 2 days a week. The rest are spent doing things we just don't enjoy. It's mechanical, often dreary, and nearly everyday is the same at work. Wake up in the morning, rush to work, rush through emails, rush through meetings (and subsequent minutes), rush back home. This sort of existence can't be good for anyone!

And though Mark Manson wrote in this extremely illuminating article, that it's not necessary that your passion and your means of earning a living coincide (http://markmanson.net/passion), the fact that we spend so much time at work, makes you wonder if not doing what you love is worth it at all. (But then the salary check hits your account, and things are alright again for about 3 days :P.)

After being in the corporate world for over 6 years, I REALLY want to WANT to come to work in the morning. I want to wake up excited about what I do. And I want to earn a comfortable living doing just that. Is it too much too hope for? Maybe not. I'll tell you why.

If you read Mark's article, one thing leaps out at you.

"The problem isn’t passion. It’s never passion.

It’s priorities."

 

For instance, I know what I love best in this world is writing. I am no Shakespeare, but I do manage to write an engaging prose when I get down to it. How often do I get down to it? The last time I did it was 3 years ago. Did I not have time? Bullshit. I was lazy. Nothing else. In the amount of time I've wasted in the last 3 years, I could have churned out at least 2 books. You see what I mean?

 

Almost all of us know what we are good at. What we truly enjoy doing. Almost all of us make excuses to stay away from that. If that ain't stupid, I don't know what is.

 

Oh well. Leaving you with my favourite lines from the article (read it already!). If this won't get you started, nothing will :)

 

"A child does not walk onto a playground and say to herself, “How do I find fun?” She just goes and has fun."

My New Blog!

I decided to start a new blog that's dedicated to the good things that happen in our world everyday. Trying to combat negativity in a world that's refusing to look at the brighter side of things in daily life. Happy Reading :)

http://themagickmarker.blogspot.in/

Cheers!